Scientists have found that willpower is like a muscle. The good news is that you can actually train your willpower and make it become stronger. The downside is that it gets tired when we use it for extended periods of time. That’s why surfing the internet or Facebook becomes even more “irresistible” at the end of a long day, food choices get worse as our willpower muscle weakens and it even explains why dieters are more likely to cheat on their partners.
Most people hire a coach because they want to reach a certain goal. Therefore, coaches are known for helping you get more of what you want and less of what you don’t want, right? Well, yes and no.
Having and reaching goals has been related in the research literature to many positive outcomes. They energize and direct our efforts in a wanted direction, give meaning to our lives and are often an important part of our identity. Reaching goals (or not) is an important feedback process which helps us to know if we are “on track”.
Let’s be honest. How many times have you had a certain plan but ended up losing track of it, maybe without even realizing that you were doing so. Many of our very well intentioned and, logically thinking, really useful goals end up being forgotten, postponed or delayed to death. We might have a great start but something happens on our way to finish that makes us lose focus on our goal. Mindfulness might be the thing you need to deal with this obstacle.
A common issue reported by those who move internationally for professional or personal reasons is that often, by leaving behind a country, they feel they have left behind a part of themselves.
This is especially true if the decision to move abroad is necessary in order to follow a partner or loved one. Most often it is women who follow their husbands on an international move, not the other way around.
Is it really already the end of November? The autumn winds are blowing even here in Madrid and, most importantly, the Christmas season is about to begin. You might be looking forward to the festivities with joy… or dread the stress that Christmas more often than necessary brings along. Today we want to suggest a simple Coaching exercise that can help you get through the year’s end with more fun and less of the struggle.
One of the questions that many people ask when they are considering to start a personal development process is whether they need therapy or coaching. We’ve heard more or less about both approaches, but still it is not too clear what the real differences are, or for which one to go if you feel both could work.
