{"id":6127,"date":"2023-01-11T17:09:30","date_gmt":"2023-01-11T17:09:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.sinews.es\/?p=6127"},"modified":"2024-12-13T06:26:02","modified_gmt":"2024-12-13T06:26:02","slug":"why-has-the-arrival-of-our-baby-been-a-challenge-to-our-relationship-as-a-couple","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sinews.es\/en\/por-que-la-llegada-de-nuestro-bebe-ha-supuesto-un-desafio-en-nuestra-relacion-de-pareja\/","title":{"rendered":"Why has the arrival of our baby been a challenge to our relationship as a couple?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Reasons and possible solutions to the difficulties experienced by a couple since the arrival of a baby.<\/em><\/span><\/h2><\/div>
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Marta Gray is a licenced Psychologist working at Sinews. She has a flexible approach combining different scientifically proven methods (Acceptance and commitment Therapy, CBT, EMDR) depending on the patient’s needs. Her main field of expertise is working with adults and she is specially interested in complex trauma, anxiety disorders, emotional deregulation and couple’s therapy.<\/p>\n<\/div>

Having a new member in our family usually means a crisis in a relationship<\/strong> and that is when many couples decide to start attending couples therapy for the first time. Many studies show a significant decrease in relationship satisfaction with the arrival of a new member in their family<\/strong> (Otero Rej\u00f3n and Flores Galaz, 2016).<\/p>\n

In a first couple\u2019s therapy session, one of the members told me, quite angry and saddened, \u00abI don’t know what happened. My boyfriend was my best friend, my rock. We have always been there for each other and, although we have had difficulties, we were always able to solve them without much difficulty. Our son has been a very wanted baby and he makes us very happy. But since he was born there has been nothing but reproaches, anger and defensiveness between us and I can’t quite understand what has happened. Out of a sudden we have become enemies\u00bb. As her therapist I said to her this was completely normal and common; even when the relationship was healthy and stable and the new arrival was a very wanted baby. She was very surprised. How was it possible?<\/p>\n

Anger<\/strong> is one of the most common emotions we encounter in couples\u2019 therapy. Anger appears to inform us that we feel as if our rights were being disrespected in a specific situation. When we feel our rights are not being respected<\/strong>, it is very difficult to understand and empathise with the other person\u2019s rights and emotions. There are several reasons why we feel discomfort in our relationship when a baby arrives and also different strategies to work through them.<\/p>\n

In this article I will talk about the main 8 challenges a couple faces with the arrival of a baby and some possible solutions<\/strong> to them:<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>