{"id":7942,"date":"2024-06-13T17:00:28","date_gmt":"2024-06-13T17:00:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.sinews.es\/?p=7942"},"modified":"2024-06-13T17:00:28","modified_gmt":"2024-06-13T17:00:28","slug":"miscarriage-and-perinatal-grief-you-are-not-alone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sinews.es\/en\/el-aborto-espontaneo-y-el-duelo-perinatal-no-estas-sola\/","title":{"rendered":"Miscarriage and Perinatal Grief: You Are Not Alone"},"content":{"rendered":"

Grief is defined as the emotional response to the significant loss of something or someone important in your life. It is the process a person undergoes to overcome and adapt to such a loss. There are many types of grief, among which we find disenfranchised grief.<\/strong> This type of grief occurs when society does not recognize the loss of a third party or does not allow the bereaved to express it. It seems unbelievable, doesn\u2019t it? In what situations do you think this type of grief could occur?<\/p>\n

One of the experiences in which this occurs is in perinatal grief. Perinatal loss<\/strong> is defined as the loss of a baby by a pregnant person from the time pregnancy is known until the first month of the baby\u2019s life. One of the most common causes of perinatal loss is miscarriage. Miscarriage<\/strong> is defined as the premature loss of the baby during the first 23 weeks of pregnancy. Within miscarriage, there is (1) early miscarriage<\/strong>, which occurs from conception to the thirteenth week of pregnancy, and (2) late miscarriage<\/strong>, which occurs from the fourteenth week to the twenty-third week.<\/p>\n

According to statistics, it is estimated that the risk of miscarriage in pregnant people is 25%<\/strong>. It is even believed that this percentage could be higher, as many losses occur before the person is aware of their pregnancy. Twenty-five percent means that 1 in 4 pregnant individuals will lose their baby spontaneously. That is, if you have a group of 10 people and they all become pregnant, it is most likely that at least 2 will lose their baby. Shocking, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n<\/div>

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The Dreaded Phrase \u201cMe Too\u201d<\/span><\/h2><\/div>
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Miscarriage is a taboo subject<\/strong>; many people have experienced it but have not communicated their loss. It is only when someone brings up the topic that many others are encouraged to talk about it. But why is something so painful taboo? There are several reasons why this happens:<\/p>\n<\/div>

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  1. Miscarriage Grief is Not Socially Accepted:<\/strong> The person\u2019s circle expects less suffering.<\/li>\n
  2. No Funeral Rituals:<\/strong> This creates the feeling that the loss should not be mourned.<\/li>\n
  3. The First Trimester Rule:<\/strong> Pregnant individuals often wait until the third month of gestation to announce their pregnancy. Thus, when miscarriages occur during this period, the environment is unaware, making them feel more alone, isolated, and unsupported.<\/li>\n
  4. Medical Desensitization:<\/strong> Since it is not a life-threatening situation nor one with a solution.<\/li>\n
  5. Lack of Understanding:<\/strong> As explained by the Theory of Ambiguity, is one of the most influential factors in the grief process.<\/li>\n
  6. Dissatisfaction with Treatment and Lack of Preparedness:<\/strong> By healthcare professionals to address the issue.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/div>

    The Consequences of Miscarriage<\/span><\/h2><\/div>
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    It is not difficult to put oneself in the shoes of someone who has had to live through this experience. The loss of an expected baby can be considered a traumatic event, becoming one of the most painful life experiences for parents. Therefore, the psychological consequences are many and varied:<\/p>\n<\/div>

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    • <\/i>Anxiety symptoms<\/li>\n
    • <\/i>Depressive symptoms<\/li>\n
    • <\/i>Post-traumatic stress<\/li>\n
    • <\/i>Intense emotions of grief, guilt, anger, and shame<\/li>\n
    • <\/i>Isolation<\/li>\n
    • <\/i>Stigmatization<\/li>\n
    • <\/i>The feeling of \u201cempty arms\u201d<\/li>\n
    • <\/i>Natural grief processes<\/li>\n
    • <\/i>Complicated grief processes<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>
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      Expected Grief<\/span><\/h2><\/div>
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      Grief is a necessary process to go through to integrate our losses. According to theorists like Worden, there are several tasks you need to accomplish in the face of a loss:<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>

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      • Accept the reality<\/li>\n
      • Work through the emotions and experience the pain<\/li>\n
      • Adapt to a world without the loved one<\/li>\n
      • Reposition and remember the loved one<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>

        The emotions we go through during grief are not comfortable, but that doesn\u2019t mean they are negative or unnecessary. On the contrary, no matter how much we want to \u00abget rid of them,\u00bb they will help us heal. Therefore, experiencing them does not imply a problem. However, in some cases, the experience can become complicated, and it is advisable to seek professional help.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>